Dating etiquette old fashioned
You know you will have at least one thing in common, as well as an informed ear to bounce all your troubles off when you get home in the evening; 2.You will probably have had the opportunity to study this person quite closely before starting to date them. What do you expect the company will think about a romance between you?
and because of that there must be a rule: Sex on the first date is OUT! Think anything that will scare you enough to persuade you to wait until you are in a serious and stable relationship.This system obviously has advantages over night-time pick-ups in darkened clubs, holiday romances, (notoriously short-lived), or blind dates arranged by friends. High-powered City workers of the Nineties are accustomed to using the office as a complete life- support system. Making a pass is a dangerous manoeuvre in the workplace. Trying to blur the lines between business and pleasure will appear sleazy.If your interest is not reciprocated you could be accused of sexual harassment or - at least - end up looking sad and sleazy once the office gossips have done their worst. How highly do you value this person as an employee/ colleague/ friend? This would entail getting someone to work late at the office and then taking them out for a meal "because it's too late to go home and cook" or taking them away on a business conference and making sure your rooms are next door to one another. Working well with someone means being relaxed with them - and that is impossible if you're not sure whether they're trying to seduce you or not.I enjoy working with you, so why complicate things? On paper they read a bit like Noel Coward out-takes).
And at all costs avoid the following: "That's okay, no hard feelings - as I hope you won't have when I tell you your pay rise has just been cancelled." Or: "So Quentin in accounts was right after all, you aren't lesbian/gay".The added advantage of using the roof is that you can get a sun tan at the same time.